After a couple divorces, it takes a while for everyone to adjust. Even parents need some time to absorb everything that has happened and settle into a new home or city. Some parents need to move away from their hometowns for job-related reasons or to be closer to other family members needing help or offering support. Often, parents divorce at the same time their aging parents need more help, adding even more stress to the mix.
For the sake of the children, try to involve the other parent in their activities and academics. Even if the children travel back and forth during holidays or summer vacation, it is still important for everyone that both parents participate as equally as possible in the kids’ everyday lives.
Some Technology Tips for Keeping in Touch
In today’s world, there is no reason not to make use of video and conferencing technology, email and social media. If you don’t know how something works, it’s likely that your kids do. And, they will be happy to help if it means the other parent can be involved in something special to them.
Consider some of these ideas that many of our clients are implementing to keep everyone involved:
Rise Above Any Anger or Bitterness
It is very important for your children to see that parents can get along when it comes to decisions about their lives. When children feel forced to choose one parent over the other or see their parents struggle because one parent is disrespectful to the other, they become stressed and may withdraw or act out.
It’s best to let them believe that you and your ex can get along when your children are involved. It can help lead to more success in school and everyday life. If you find communication with your ex is an issue, contact us for help.